If you tend to be more critical and harder on yourself than you are with others, give this quick 5 minute exercise a try. It is based on ‘The Three Components of Self-Compassion’ by psychologist Kristin Neff and can be quite effective.
It's okay to not be okay for a while, however, beating yourself up just adds more stress and becomes an exhausting cycle.
Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, try being self-compassionate to allow you to be kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect?
Practise this Self-Compassion technique here.
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Self-compassion involves acting the same way towards yourself when you are having a difficult time, fail, or notice something you don’t like about yourself. Instead of just ignoring your pain with a “stiff upper lip” mentality, you stop to tell yourself “this is really difficult right now,” how can I comfort and care for myself in this moment?